Everyone has their own measurement of success- the most brilliant sense of freedom comes from discovering your own.
For the last 8 years my successes have been measured in miles, calories burned, heart rate charts, pairs of worn out runners, negative splits and PB’s. I have measured my success in perfect training logs and my ranking in finish stats. All of these are perfectly reasonable, understandable and respectable measurements for personal success.
However, over the last year or so, these methods of measuring haven’t held the same appeal for me as they once did. It has become far less important to me to measure my goals and accomplishments in the same way that I once did. I have begun to change how I both define success and how I measure it for myself.
I have been using the Desire Map as a foundation and goal setting method for my life pretty consistently for the last year. Becoming clear on how I want to FEEL has become a method of measuring what I do and what I put onto my goal list. I look back at all of those metrics I used to measure my accomplishments before and I understand that they are all very sound methods. Looking back I know that I felt accomplished, proud and strong to name just a few.
But how I want to feel has changed.
“It FEELS amazing to make the right decision”, I said to Ken as we packed up and headed towards the lake instead of heading to compete in Spartan Race this weekend in Montana. And it did….I felt
I believe true success is figuring out that which delivers to you the feelings you desire. And then doing it.
The primary intention is to feel good.
I’m not giving up physical pursuits. Athletic endeavors. They fuel my soul. They FEEL good to me. I believe there is a spiritual connection that takes place when we move our bodies and make them sweat and I desire that like I desire a great glass of wine and a meaningful conversation.
I just think it is really important to understand that success is measured differently for different people and differently at different times in your life. To figure out how you want to feel and then use that as fuel for your goals will show you your own method of determining success. Measuring our success with the metric of either someone else, or a method that no longer fits us is like comparing apples and oranges.
Both Saturday and Sunday morning, I took to the forestry trails with the best sister a girl can have. My measurement of success this weekend was my watch and GPS left behind. Success was measured in the number of times I had to stop running to double over and laugh. Success was measured in the ability to carry on conversation. Success was measured at the top of the hill. Success was measured in the giant grins at runs end. Success was measured in the sore legs later on. Success was mostly measured in the feelings
How do you measure your successes? Have you thought about that? What would it look like to use a different metric?
What does success FEEL like to you? How would you feel about giving up old measurements of personal success?