I had a very busy weekend.
I’m staring at a very messy house right now.
I’ll sit down to write after I clean up.
I’ll get those projects under way after I throw in a load of laundry.
I caught myself in old habits this morning. It happens when you go on a journey to change. I caught myself giving myself the teeniest sense of guilt for doing what made me feel good first. It didn’t last long, thankfully.
If I wait to get my thoughts on paper, they sometimes disappear. If you wait to have that conversation or spend time with your kids, or your partner, the time may not be there. If you wait to view the eclipse until after you have done the dishes, it may be gone.
The time is NOW.
Now is the time to do the things that make you feel good. Stop using pleasurable experiences, things that bring you joy as a reward. Use them as your set point instead. It is much easier to follow up with tasks after you have done things that feed your soul. You know, the laundry, dishes, and dusting are still going to be there.
Stop putting things off until what you think is the perfect time and moment. That moment does not exist. When the kids are older, when I have the job, the house, the partner….then I will be happy, have more time, have more money. Then I can do things for me. That will be the perfect time.
We use the perfect time as a procrastination excuse.
We fall victim to the when/then pitfall.
What are you putting off doing? Signing up for a course? Buying the dress? Writing the book?
No more excuses. No more when/then.
Now is the time.
Stop what you are doing right now and give yourself a gift. A deep breath, a cup of tea, a quick text to your loved one.
After that, you can come back to the dish pan.